I told this story about my Parent-Teacher Interaction Day today at my FB wall:
Maybe I left that hanging with the aura that the day did not turn out as inspiring as i thought that it would be. On such a sad note.
But I did leave the classroom with another story. A story of perseverence, and simply a mother’s strong will.
A story i spent nearly half an hour talking to this mother.
Mrs S. Her elder daughter has medical problems that needs to be taken to the hospital nearly everyweek. My student, the younger sister, F, always absent on the day because no one will pick her up after school due everyone is at the hospital.
F is a really silent kid. I rarely hear her talk. So this is my conversation with her mother;
” So I’ve just knew about her sister’s condition. I understand why now F is always absent.”
” Yes, her elder sister always need to see the doctor. She (elder sis) now also has develop problems with one of her eye. And the medical conditions (maybe) made her a bit slow ( in learning)”
I looked over at the elder sister looking at my noticeboards in the classroom. The ones with the sticker charts. She grazed her fingers slowly over the stickers and started to count them slowly.
I turn to look at Mrs. S. Confident, smiling. Never a moment of weakness.
“F is always silent in class. Is she always like this at home? I ask this because i worry maybe something is bothering her or anything..”
” Oh no, she is always like that. She the silent one at home. Always like to spend time in her rooms and reading..”
” Wow, then she must be really clever to read so much..”
” She even have her own diary, Cikgu. Everything she feels she always write in them. “
” Its great for me to heat that she has an outlet to express her feelings, and someone so young to keep a diary! She must be really good in her essays..”
I told her about myself keeping diary in high school. Intermission.
” Do you know, Cikgu, when F wants to communicate with me, she always write me a letter, and i would reply at the bottom and she would reply back etc?”
” Wow! How interesting! ” ( How old school)
“Yes, I always read her diary when she’s asleep, because who knows what happens during the day, and she rarely talks, and she wrote almost everything down. So I make a point to read and put back exactly where she hid it”.
I had to hold back my Wows at this moment. Because Mrs. S is such a great mother. Other moms would (maybe) have ignored the letter and diary, but she made a point to understand her silent child.
She went on to wow me further:
” SInce her elder sister , and sometimes F , doesn’t like to memorize the Surahs from Quran maybe because its hard for them. I try to make it enjoyable to them by looking up on youtube, and asking them to memorize by listening and repeating. I tried by rote learning but it seems they enjoy the youtube more.Now they almost can memorize all that they should be knowing..”
She ended with such a proud smile. I smiled. I love her story.
” I am going to open up a blog for her to write in. She’s interested in computer. So I said to her; Kakak, later Ibu make a blog then you can write in it…”
Mrs. S, a housewife with so many means and and idea. I love her already.
” Wow” ( I can’t help myself really, at this point)
” Who knows she will become a famous writer one day? I would want to visit her blog too..”
” Its great that you put up such effort for your kids. Rarely i hear such stories from parents that go beyond the usual means to help their children. Because most of the time i hear, she/hes always like that, Cikgu. You just do what you can do with my kid teacher, i dont mind one bit. .. but you, you have the initiative. An inspiration really.”
Not one moment of weakness because of her challenged-children. Lucky girls to have such a great mom. Alhamdulillah.
I sent the three of them off with such goodfelt feeling in the heart that restored my faith in humanity.
The worst and the best story of the day. May I of all, and we learn something from the experience He has given me today.